So, I was off work for a full week, a few weeks back, and had a bit of time to think about what kind of advice I wish I had been given, things that might be of help to you.
A big one I remembered, was just how important self talk can be in your day-to-day activities, and how well it can address the way you view life, both positive and negative.
Now, this isn't that unusual thing that some do when they stare meaningfully into their bathroom mirror and tell themselves about how the Universe will provide them something, just because they're saying it out loud, no.
This is all about how you tell yourself something, not the actual what. No mirrors involved.
Let me clarify some, with an example.
What if, instead of saying to yourself on a typical Monday morning or after a long work day prior:
"I have to go to work today",
you changed that around, and said:
"I get to go to work today"
The difference might not seem like much, but the change it could have, could be significant. Feeling grateful is a powerful mind-set changer whereas feeling like you have no control, often does the opposite. Have to versus Get to. I know which one I prefer.
Self talk like this, has the ability to bring about change in the way you see your challenges, but only if you give it a go.
Think about it. What if every time you need to go do something you're hesitant about or not looking forward to, perhaps like mowing the lawns on a hot day, going to a party you think might be boring, clean the house, be part of a project when you're already busy or do a task you weren't looking forward to, you took this approach?
Could it turn out better than you first thought? Yes, it could!
Could you doing it with more enthusiasm help? Yes, it could!
What if then, after you'd done whatever it was, you made sure to look reflectively at the event afterward with the same positivity too? What do you think you would find?
For instance as starters;
Mowed the lawns - look how great they look with them done!
Boring party - wasn't boring, actually had a great time! Or it was 100% boring, and you were right!
Clean the house - look how clean it is now! Proud of the result!
Project when you're busy - empowered by the input you had, things you learnt, greater exposure to the business, things you could take back to your team. Sure, it was hard, but was it worth it? In some way, it would have been. It's all about how you look at it.
Task you weren't looking forward to - now its completed!
By saying "I get to..." and looking at how things went afterward, its all about celebrating the positives. You'll embrace traits such as feeling grateful and begin feeling more self-confident, plus build resilience to negative situations and people.
This approach really seems like a much better way of succeeding at removing stress, anxiety, the "sigh" factor or even hesitancy too, much more than you ever would have by continuing to say "I have to...", right?
Plenty of people will tell you to live in the moment more or stop to smell roses all to avoid stress/anxiety/depression etc, or a myriad of other self-help things all in the interest of bringing more happiness and peace into your life. After all, it's what we all strive for in one way or another.
Whilst they will all work in their own ways, I think this one may help too and is often faster in helping you. It's only swapping out a word in your head, right?
Only way to know for sure? Try it.
